Men Too India

Are you really serious to know about your legal rights dear husband! Why do you think you should be given rights and also the laws to enforce the right! Are you feeling insecure post marriage! Read the article and give your opinion in the comment section.

You are a Man, our society is Patriarchal, why will you feel insecure or needed rights and legal protection. See, it is only your wife who deserves to be protected, after all you have harassed your wife from thousands of years, oops 1000’s year while you are just in the 30’s. Is this punishment for what your father, grandfather and ancestors had done in the past?

Are you serious that your father, grandfather, great-grandfather and so on, has really harassed your mother, grandmother, great-grandmother and so on?

Dear husband, “इतिहास गवाह है (history witnesses)”, that men were made slaves of the King and powerful people in society. The slave men were treated like anything but there is no recognition of their pain they faced even what men did good for society is rarely recognised.

Why the men faced so much of pain in the past, and not only in the past but in present scenario too? Is this due to their love, affection, honesty towards the family?

What our media says that, it is always women who get harassed and tortured. Even feminist group never talked about male harassment by female and they are always seen defaming such situation naming it Patriarchal society.

Whenever a news comes up about Rape, suddenly National level movement starts to “Kill the Rapist” without going into a Trial, but have you ever seen such movement when a Man gets killed or tortured.

If I ignore the news on rape for a while, I am sure many of us has not even heard any “Crime of Rape” in their society. But the question is, why feminist group always talks about rape? Is this to create fear among the parents and society to feel insecure about their daughters and other female members in the family or they really want to create momentum against Rape? Does the fear among society has tarnished image of our sons? Does the fear leads to bring so many laws against male where women always seen as a victim while the male is assumed always criminal?

Yes, committing rape is a heinous crime and culprit must be punished per the law and so the false accusers, but when I talk about why “A Male gets punished even in a false case in the name of women safety”. Yes, I again agree that there is a chance of “Fair Trial”, but it has two important aspects which affect the trial. The first, it takes many years and the person who was falsely accused in the crime should have lost their precious years, and secondly, that the feminist movement effect the trial (which you have seen in Hyderabad Rape Case).

You must be thinking, why I am taking about the media and the feminist movement while this article is for “Legal rights to dear Husband”, so I want to clarify here that you can not understand the legal rights without having an understanding of the role of the media and the feminist.

When I talk about Legal Rights to dear husband, it is again seen as women’s safety, empowerment and equality. As soon as a wife claim harassment, husband along with his family treated as guilty and being harassed at every level of the system, be it police, society or law.

When a husband reaches to police claiming his innocence but he essentially fails to prove it, due to lack of competency of the officers to handle family matters and also that the crime mentioned in the wife’s complaint are most of the time would have happened inside a boundary, and as a result charge sheet being filed by the investigation officer accusing the husband and family.

If I talk about maintenance to wife, a wife always treated as dependent of husband, the court will never ask the wife to “work and earn” for her livelihood but they will force husband to pay. The court thinks that the husband of middle class family is a King. The King, who does not even able to manage the expenditure of his life, but he then forced to manage the demand of his estranged wife who has left him just due to her ego or in the influence or for some other reasons.

If I talk about, Section 9 of Hindu Marriage Act (HMA), provides “Restitution of conjugal rights”, but again the Court can force a husband to stay together or pay a maintenance amount to wife but cannot force a wife. Just because, it will be a violation if the court forces any woman to have sex or work even as homemaker.

One day, the innocent “Dear Husband”, has to be freed from all the charges for the crime he has never committed. The sad part is that by then many precious years of his life spent in running to court, police stations. The end result is the win-win situation for the wife, as she has made husband suffered for the whole life and in return the wife praised with the husband’s hard earned money for lifetime that too without any responsibility towards the husband who is paying for her livelihood.

Did you understand the logic, why the “Dear Husband” paying for his estranged wife for lifetime, even after the husband alone has to take care of his home, work, family. So who is taking care of the husband, the husband himself, my answer will be Yes, what is yours!

Yes, it’s patriarchy where the system made for women and only women has right to be protected, right to be maintained and right to live a peaceful life, on other hand, considering the position of the husband, a husband has become the slave of his wife as soon as any litigation filed by his wife. This is not seen as discrimination with men, but as a right of women!

Note : writer has tried to bring questions and present scenario for Men in the system.